Your Dream Is Waiting in the Wings

waiting in the wingsDo you feel a lurch of disappointment in your gut when you think of your Dream as compared to the reality you are in right now? And are you reluctant to create your vision for this year because of that?

Here’s a Secret: In order to manifest your Dream, you have to show up in your life, right now just as it is, as if it is the most amazing life in the world! You embrace it, all of it. No matter what you are doing or who you are with, you embrace it and give it your best… instead of resisting it!

Carl Jung tells us “what you resist persists” Resistance causes suffering and can cause you to lose the learning. “Embracing what is” sends a strong message to the universe. “I’m willing to do whatever it takes to manifest my Dream. BRING IT ON!” When you give you best, no matter what you are doing or who you are with, you open to receive the best!

Remember to keep happiness afloat. Success doesn’t bring happiness. Happiness brings success!

 

5 Tips to Empower Your Dream

For some reason, we as human beings have a natural tendency to focus on the negative, e.g., failure, lack, offenses of others, self-deprecation. But, in order to empower our dreams, we must see ourselves and our lives as full, powerful, abundant and successful. How do we do that when there are so many challenges in our lives? We do it through vigilance on where we put our focus. It’s simple, but not easy. It takes discipline. Here are some tips to create a tipping point in your life.

1. Success Breeds Success

Every night before you fall asleep, think of your successes during the day. Come up with at least five. They don’t have to be big, but they certainly can be. Get in the habit of celebrating even the smallest success. As you make this a habit, you begin to see yourself as a success and this helps you manifest more success in your life.

E.g., “When triggered by someone, I took a breath, went into my heart and was able to respond without a charge;” “I got 2 new clients today;” “I went to see  someone in the hospital and helped uplift them.”

2. Gratitude Attracts Abundance

Before setting any intention or goal, it is beneficial to spend 30 sec to a minute thinking of what you already have in your life to be grateful for. Gratitude fills you with love and places your focus on abundance and fullness. It opens your heart and prepares you to receive even more. From a feeling of lack, you only create more lack. When you are feeling abundant, you are attracting abundance. Spend some time every day thinking of all the things in your life you are grateful for. You can roll this over into your success practice, because you can feel gratitude for your successes, but don’t forget to add the little things that are just part of life, like a warm cup of hot chocolate on a cold day.

3. Have the attitude, “It Is Done”

Write your intentions & goals in the present or past tense as if they are happening now or have already manifested. Visualize them and imagine yourself already there in as much detail as you can for at least 5 min each day. If you do this each night before you go to bed, your subconscious mind will be working on ideas for manifesting your dreams while you sleep!

4. Utilize Your Feeling Magnet

Each time you visualize your dream already manifested, focus on how you will feel when you have manifested your dreams. If it will bring you love, peace, joy, happiness, excitement… (whatever the attributes), focus on those feelings. Think of other things that bring up these feelings in you. Let them get more intense. Take time to revel in them. Do more things that bring up those same feelings. Your feelings have enormous power to draw toward you more things that bring up those same feelings in you.

5. Live Your Dream

Act as if you have already attained your dreams. As you think of yourself already there, think of all of the positive ways of being that have brought you there. Ways of being such as confident, happy, cheerful, committed, unstoppable, creative, wise, powerful, charismatic, strong, a leader, peaceful and more. Practice becoming that person and each time you exhibit one of these ways of being, acknowledge yourself and add that success to your list of successes.

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Beth McKinnon is the founder of NowBeth Empowerment Coaching. She is passionate about inspiring women to believe in themselves, find their true voice and bring their gifts to the world. She has almost 20 years of coaching experience and has honed her skills to help clients quickly get to the heart of their issue. She then uses her unique and powerful techniques to clear the issue and motivate them to move forward on their path.

Download your FREE BLUEPRINT for envisioning your 2015 as well as my FREE TELE-COURSE, “Focus Your Dream in 2015” that will take you through your 2015 Blueprint step by step and give you little-known tools and techniques to empower your dream.

 

Predicting Your Future Is Easy

Did you know that you are creating your future now with every thought, word and action? What are you thinking, saying, doing or not doing? Are you complaining all of the time or even some of the time? Are you complaining all the time? Do you know that these unconscious habits are undermining your success? Are you sometimes undisciplined, unfocused and not taking actions you know would bring you success or make you feel better? Do you know what you want? Do you have a plan, a vision?

If you’re not practicing “conscious creation”, you’re creating on default. You are always creating something. Either you are creating a bright future for yourself or you are creating more of the same or…something worse.

So take a minute now and look at what you are creating for yourself. If you are always complaining about your circumstances, you are being ungrateful for all the amazing gifts you’ve been given. This unconscious habit can cut you off from receiving and even cause you to attract more things to complain about.

When you focus on gratitude for what you have already been given, the universe wants to give you more and more and more. This is not just pie in the sky. It is physics. It’s the way life works.

If you want to create a wonderful life for yourself, become conscious of what you are thinking and saying. If it is negative, quickly turn it around and think of something that makes you feel happy. You hold the reins. In this way, you are “consciously creating” your future.

Think about what you would like to be creating. Ask yourself,  “If I could  wave a magic wand over my life and create anything I wanted, how would I recreate my life?” Then write it down. Just by doing this you’ve created a compelling vision that is starting to create your future now.

Maybe you’ve done this before and it still hasn’t come out like you wanted it. Well, let’s add another ingredient, I call this the “Feeling Magnet.” Write down how you will feel when this situation is true for you. How happy will you be, how energized, how fulfilled, how peaceful and secure? However you want to feel, go ahead and bring up those feelings now. Really come present to those feelings. Give yourself to them. Allow yourself to revel in them. Do more things in your life that bring up those same or similar feelings. The more you focus on feeling good, the more the “Feeling Magnet” will work in your life to draw to you those experiences that produce those feelings.

Every day spend time on your vision.  Take from 5 to 15 minutes to read your vision or goal, picturing it as if it has already happened. Get in touch with those amazing feelings that manifesting your vision will produce. Let them get even more intense. How high can you let yourself go? The more you put into this visualization and the “Feeling Magnet”, the more powerfully it will pull your vision toward you.

So give up letting your thoughts and words be on default. Become conscious of where they are taking you. Is that where you want to go? Focus on things that make you feel grateful, that are what you truly want in your life and things that make you happy. And there will be no limit to what your life can become!

 

The Women’s Success Tribe

 

Over the last several months, I have been interviewing what I consider conscious, spiritual, intuitive women who want to express their ideas and gifts in a meaningful way. It has been a great adventure and I have been thrilled with the willingness and even eagerness with which many of these women shared their challenges and their dreams with me.

I began to see early on that it would take me a very long time to get to all the wonderful women I wanted to interview, so I decided to take my interview project online. I have named the initiative “The Women’s Success Tribe.” I think there is room here for a very rich discussion.

So, I would like to invite all of you who feel drawn to this project to participate by taking a short anonymous Survey

Here are some of the results from the Women’s Interview Project so far:

The biggest Common Denominators were “Being Who I Truly Am” and “Asking for What I Truly Want.“ Many women shared that they felt women have less permission to live full out, that they are often not seen for who they truly are. Some have fear of revealing themselves. They don’t feel they can ask for what they want, but must settle instead for what they are “supposed” to have and do.

In my opinion, this is a tragedy! This world is “dying” for what women, coming from their deep authenticity, can offer. The natural qualities of the feminine aspect – intuition, wisdom, compassion, kindness, nurturing, healing, acceptance, forgiveness, creativity and collaborative leadership are so needed at this time.
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“The World will be saved by the Western Woman”
~ the Dalai Lama

Other Challenges that were mentioned were Taking Care of Myself; Asking for Help; Taking Credit; Finding Balance; the Aging Process; Being Alone; Being in Relationship and Wanting To Be in a Relationship.

Some of the answers to What’s Important to You? were: Determining What’s Authentic for Me; Being Joyful, Loving and Having Fun; Living from my Heart; Being Accepted for Who I am; Having the Courage to Manifest my Vision,  Answering My Inner Calling.

I hope you will help me with this project by Taking the Survey

My goal is to bring women like these together in a tribe,       ”The Women’s Success Tribe” to define what they truly want in life, identify their challenges and obstacles and support each other in getting there.

I will be holding a <3Free TeleCourse in 3 weeks to talk more about what women want, their gifts, their challenges and their dreams. Stay tuned for how to participate in that!
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How To Tap Your Creative Feminine 2

Cultivate Your Passion

Another attribute of the heart-centered Creative Feminine aspect of both men and women is passion. Heart stands for wisdom, beauty and truth and it also stands for passion.  When you follow your passion, you follow what is really important to you, that which gives you joy, love and excitement, that which fulfills you.

A great way to practice living by what’s important to you is to identify what you want and what you love, and then, do things that put you more in touch with feelings of fulfillment. As you experience those great feelings, you are drawing toward you the circumstances — and therefore the experiences — that will fulfill you.

I call this the feeling magnet! It is very simple. You get what you focus on with feeling. The feeling brings circumstances that mirror your feeling. So put your focus, whenever you can, on things that fill you with good feelings!

An exercise for cultivating your passion:

a)  I feel happy when I………….make a list of any activities, large or small

b)  I feel unhappy when I…….…make a list of any activities, large or small

c)  Happiness for me would be….…..describe things about your ideal life

d)  For the sake of more joy in my life, I will………commit to at least 5 things that make you feel great. They can be big things, such as a special vacation, throwing a party, or going skydiving! Or, they can be simple things, such as listening to music, going for a walk, working out, doing something creative. It can even be something as simple as thinking of someone you love or relishing a great experience. Anything that will make you feel good.

Include at least one of these 5 things that fill you with joy every day until it becomes a habit. From this simple habit, you will find yourself becoming happier and more fulfilled.

For example, the 5 things chosen by one client were: “For the sake of more joy in my life, I will take an acting class, focus on people I love instead of those I don’t, take my time, get out more, play more, pay my bills on time.”

As you bring what you love more and more into your life, you awaken the passion that motivates you to reach your goals and live your dreams. Believe me, hard work alone does not get you where you are destined to go!

“You draw more into your life what you give attention to.
When you put your attention on things which bring you joy,
happiness, and fulfillment, you get more of that.”
– Janet Atwood

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Exercises to Tap into Your Creative Feminine
(for Men & Women)

1. Ask for What You Want

2. Cultivate Your Passion

Both sexes have both the feminine and masculine aspects present in their nature. Both are crucial to our very existence. For a number of years women have been embracing the masculine qualities of self confidence, decisiveness, assertiveness and the ability to take charge of their own lives as they have entered the male dominated business world.

My female clients tell me that it was very exciting at first to make it in a “man’s world,” but most felt they had to stuff their natural Feminine Power to do it. They tell me it came at big price with stress, burn-out, feelings of self-betrayal and frustration.

Now is the time in history when the masculine and feminine  powers are beginning to come into balance. Recently, I’m seeing that more men are getting in touch with their feelings, intuition, wisdom, patience and empathy. And forward thinking corporations are hiring coaches, encouraging collaborative leadership and authenticity in the work place.

In this article I will share the first exercise for tapping into your Creative Feminine:

1) Ask for What You Want

Many people are too often reluctant to ask for what they want. Many of us are just naturally givers. We give and give and give – and then we crash. This is especially true of women as the main nurturers in the family, but it’s also true of men.  Wouldn’t it be nice if you could consistently ask for what you want and actually get the support you want and deserve?

I can’t tell you how many times I hear women say, “my husband would never let me do that” regarding things they would love to do, such as going to a five-day workshop in Hawaii, hiking with a friend on a Saturday, or taking a creative writing course in the evening. I always say, “Well have you asked him?”  “No,” they answer, “but I know he would say no.”  “OK, my request for you is to ask him before our next session.” So far, with only one exception, I have gotten the answer back, “He said he didn’t mind!”

And men, I have never heard a male client say his wife wouldn’t let him, but I’m sure you hold ideas about what your wife, employer or friend would not go along with and let that often erroneous belief keep you from asking them.

My philosophy is:

Ask for what you want and dance with what you get!

EXERCISE:

a) Make a list of 10 things you want that you haven’t asked for, either from other people or from the universe. It could be anything from help with the dishes to a trip to Europe to something in the bedroom. Have no expectation of the outcome. Be willing to be okay with whatever you get.

b) Write beside each one why you haven’t asked for it.

c) Choose 5 of the items on your list, and commit to asking for them over the next 5 days.

This will work the muscle of asking for what you want and will set the stage for you to begin to access the things you are most passionate about that you may not have allowed yourself to own.

I have a client who was reluctant to ask for what she wanted, and I gave her the above homework to complete before our next session. Here is her report back, for you to enjoy.

She asked her son to go to the grocery for a few things she had forgotten. He said “No problem.” She was stunned! Then she asked him to go to Starbucks and get her a chai tea to enjoy while she sat on the sofa reading. He said, “Sure.” She was amazed!! Then she asked her husband if he would be okay with her taking a writing class in the evening once a week. He said “Fine.” She was in disbelief!!! Now it is easier for her to get very clear on what she wants in her life and she is going for it.

If you ask, then at least you have a chance of getting what you want. It may not always be this easy, but I suggest you give it a shot!

Self Love – How Does It Impact Your Life?

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about self-love and what it really is and why it took me so long to cultivate it. It occurs to me now that self-love is the master key to joy, happiness, and success. I’ve been working on self-love for years and still at times I get blindsided by a rejection or a judgment.  

I’ll be gliding along, feeling good about myself and my life when suddenly something jumps out at me that rocks my boat. Somebody says something to me that feels critical, another person is rude, another doesn’t respond to my calls or emails, I forget to pay a bill. All my old feelings from my past of being unworthy, unlovable and inadequate come up.

Fortunately now my recovery time is much shorter than it used to be. Instead of days, weeks and sometimes years of worrying over past “offenses” and things I did “wrong,” I am able to recover in seconds, minutes or hours depending on the intensity.

“He who takes offense when no offense is intended is a fool, and he who takes offense when offense is intended is a greater fool.” Brigham Young

Here is an exercise you can use when someone offends you:

First make it about them and not you. Make up excuses for them, “Maybe she was having a bad day.” “Maybe he had just gotten some terrible news.” “Maybe she didn’t mean it in the way I took it.” “Maybe they went into the hospital and weren’t able to answer my calls and emails.” (I used that one recently) “And even if that person was judging me, I refuse to judge myself.” “ Even though I feel inadequate and wrong for not paying a bill, I still deeply love and accept myself” Do everything in your power to maintain your state of self-love.

Remember, it’s not that you necessarily get over getting triggered right away, it’s about how quickly you can recover. It’s about fiercely protecting your self-approval and therefore your happiness. Use the affirmations, “I love myself, I approve of myself.”  “It’s not about me, it’s about them.”

“How would your life be different if…you stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day…you stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others”  – Steve Mariboli

Most people think success brings happiness, when actually the opposite is true. Happiness brings success. Happy people are in the heart. Happy people are filled with gratitude. When you love yourself, you project that love everywhere you go. You have confidence. You are true to yourself. You offer your gifts freely. People are drawn to you. People look up to you. People love you. You are open to receive and that’s when the universe fills you up!

I gave myself the birthday gift recently at a friend’s suggestion to approve of myself unconditionally, no matter what; to imbibe “Everything happens for the best” in the most radical sense. As I immerse myself futher in self love, I’m finding that there is basically only one love. Love of Self, Love of Creator, Love of Others and Love of Life all emanate from the same  heart. When you fall in love with your own beautiful heart, you fall in love with everyone and everything!

Self -Love Quiz

Loving yourself, being yourself and trusting yourself create a life that fulfills you and supports you. How you feel about yourself has a profound effect on your inner happiness as well as all the outer circumstances of your life.

Did you know, you were born as the first, and the last and the best and the only one of your kind, and that eccentricity is the first sign of giftedness?    Clarissa Pinkola Estes

How do you rate in the Self-Love Department?

SELF-LOVE QUIZ

Rate yourself from 0-10,
10 = I totally agree
0 = I totally disagree
1-9 = everything in between

  1.     I measure my worth by who I am instead of by what I do.
  2.     I measure my success by how fulfilled I am instead of by how I compare to others.
  3.     I feel I am good and worthy.
  4.     I put my faith in my own truth instead of other people’s opinions and rules.
  5.     I accept and love myself no matter what I’m thinking or feeling.
  6.     I feel that I deserve to be loved just because I exist.
  7.     I trust my intuition.
  8.     I believe in myself.
  9.     I don’t feel that I have to do things in a certain way to please others.
  10.     As a rule, I live more from love than fear.
  11.     I don’t say yes when I mean no.
  12.     I am never the last person I take into consideration.
  13.     If someone rejects me I make it about them and not about me.
  14.     My actions are driven by inspiration and love instead of by fear and struggle.
  15.     I ask for what I want and am willing to dance with what I get.

Add up your numbers.

  • If you scored 105 or better, congratulations!  Your self-love is pretty healthy.
  • If you scored below 105, you are not nurturing, loving and supporting yourself nearly enough. Don’t get discouraged, we all struggle with this. We all have room to make ourselves a lot happier.

You can begin by simply noticing each time you sell out on yourself and by accepting that tendency in yourself. Noticing is a powerful catalyst for change! Be True & Be You!

I’ll be giving more tips for promoting self-love in my upcoming free TeleCourse. Watch for details.

Please feel free to leave a comment. I’d love to know YOUR thoughts on the subject!

The Power of the Creative Feminine

Many times it’s difficult for us to even identify what we want, let alone ask for it, which in my vocabulary is to go for it. We’re often so busy doing for others, putting out fires, performing and trying to hold it all together. This is true especially for women as we are naturally multi-taskers, caregivers and nurturers, who often put our own needs last. And…. this is a recipe for being unfulfilled in our lives.

Self –love is the fertile soil from which the sacred seed of your Divine Feminine takes root ~Ocean Whitehawk

This month I’m focusing on women and their great, often under-utilized gifts such as intuition, passion and creativity. When we are not living from our authenticity, it’s hard to be joyful and fulfilled. Who is this woman, what are her values and most of all what does she truly long to express in her life? Some want to find their passion. Some want to find their voice. Some want more balance and ease in their lives and some want to use their creative powers to create more prosperity in their lives.

When a woman answers these questions for herself, she begins to strengthen her relationship with herself, stand in her power and then she is juiced by life. Then she gives herself permission to honor and care for herself, to love herself just the way she was created. That’s when she is standing in the Power of the Creative Feminine.

I grew up with some shame around being a woman. It really held me back. I was taught in my generation not to appear too smart or too good at sports or too in-charge around a potential date. In other words, don’t dare be yourself and say what you think and how you feel. The boys wouldn’t like it and the subtle message was – they wouldn’t marry me.  Of course that was what I was being raised to do – get married, have children, join a garden club, play bridge and have ladies’ luncheons and teas, which is all fine if that is your calling. I thought it was mine, but it didn’t turn out to be. I must say I found my calling late in life and it came with its share of struggles and learning. And now I am sharing with others the tools I’ve learned for how to get clear on what’s really important to you, how to get in touch with your creative ideas, stand in your authentic self-expression, claim your intuition and own your unique brand of power as a woman.  And I’m doing this with men as well.

This is a time in history where the powers of the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine are beginning to come into balance. I am noticing today men who are more trusting of their feminine side – their passion, their intuition, their natural creativity, to name a few of the feminine attributes and they share they are finding relief, comfort and a sense of wholeness in it.

Stay tuned for my upcoming free Telecourse in which we will further explore the Creative Feminine looking at women’s challenges, desires and definitions of success as well as how to live with intuition and authenticity.

Finding Balance

wristThe best laid plans of mice and men…I had my well laid out plan for all my fall events. I definitely didn’t make room in my time line for tripping and falling and finding myself in the emergency room with a broken wrist. Nor did it fit into my time line to have surgery and be on pain meds and have a cast for six weeks and do physical therapy.

Well that is what is! I have been contemplating the whys and wherefores of this because, as we know, everything happens for a reason. The first thing I noticed was the enormous love and gratitude that rose up inside me.  People were incredibly kind and helpful all along the way. It was easy for me to be vulnerable and receive their help. What a gift! That has not always been the case for me. It opened me to even more love and appreciation.

Several of my friends have suggested that I needed to slow down a little and nurture myself more. I’ll go along with that, it rings true. But there are other parts I realized as I contemplated, meditated and journaled. I know that it is time for me to finally let go of the belief, “I can never do enough” and own that my best is good enough and I am enough just as I am.

There is no one I know who would say I lack self-discipline. Most think I have too much. But as I continue to contemplate and journal to find the gift in this, I see that not being disciplined enough is exactly what was happening. I don’t need the discipline to work harder, but in how and when I work and the discipline to give myself enough play time, enough time to do things for others and enough time to reward myself for my hard work.

I’m realizing that the most important place I need discipline, is in “bright shiny object syndrome.” I love to pursue them and they can totally draw me off of my time line. My email in-box is full of bright shiny objects that have stolen so much of my precious time. So I plan to give my inner child a specific limited amount of time to play in that arena as a reward for staying in integrity with my commitments for myself that day (which I plan to keep light.)

I’m also committing to take my time and do everything with more love and joy than ever before. Anita Moorjani, in her book “Dying to Be Me” defines the difference in doing and being. She says that “doing” is action that comes from the mind and is based in struggle and fear. “Being” on the other hand is action that comes from the soul and is driven by passion and love. In action based in “being,” there is room for magic and miracles. I’m afraid I have been much too much in “doing” mode, striving and pushing and not enough in “being” mode. “Whoa” said the universe. “ Where’s the self-love in this? I’ll just give you some time to stop and think about this.”

I invite you to join me in making a commitment to self-love, to more “being” and less “doing.” I know that the more we love ourselves, the more we draw love and favorable conditions into our lives and…as I am finding out, it takes vigilance! Look for the Self-Love Quotient Quiz I’ll be posting tomorrow.

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Beth McKinnon is an empowerment coach. She has helped many, many clients not only heal the wounds that have kept them from going for what they truly want, but also get clear on the outcomes they want for their lives, their compelling vision. Then the action plan begins to flow and the magic begins to happen!

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