ACCESS YOUR INNER POWER, A 3 STEP PROCESS (PODCAST)

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Women are much more powerful than we ever knew! Tony Robins says, “There’s no question that women are more powerful than men.”  Why, then are we known as the weaker sex. Why then, have men so often lorded it over us for the last 5000 years?

I don’t know about you, but for years, I was terrified to speak up for myself. I always thought men knew more than I did, made better decisions, were better  leaders and were more powerful than anyone, (except for maybe the nuns at my school.) I felt small and insignificant in their presence. Can you relate to any of these feelings?

Turns out we were wrong about our power. We’re the ones holding the real power and it’s not about brawn and bravado, it’s much deeper than that.
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About this power:

  • It’s about tapping into your inner resources to feed and nourish and serve you
  • It’s about relying on your inner wisdom and inspiration
  • It’s about opening to the flow of life’s creative energy and allowing in the gifts the universe has in store for you.
  • It’s about living a life of more ease, joy, fun, intuitive wisdom, abundance and fulfillment.

And, it’s about living in full alignment with
your truest  feminine nature.

In this 30 minute podcast, we will delve deeply into the nature of your innate feminine power and learn a 3 step process for tapping into it.
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As a woman, when you are in touch with your natural power, you have a certain radiance about you. You are anchored in your body. People will see in you: charisma, inner knowing, confidence and ease . You have no need to be loud or demanding to exert your influence. You stand up for yourself by clearly stating what you want in a request instead of a demand. You emit a powerful energy of confident radiance that affects and influences everyone around you.

Learning how to embrace this power, will support and empower you in creating a life and career of wisdom and joy, on your terms, instead of someone else’s!

*You may view the transcript of this podcast here.
 

 

3 Reasons Women Burn Out Doing it the Masculine Way

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Men are hardwired to push and drive and muscle through. Women by nature are more about connection, love and wisdom. However we both have both masculine and feminine powers and women have shown that we can do anything a man can do. But when a woman leads with her masculine powers and ignores her feminine essence, it can come at a great cost – lack of fulfillment, the pain of self-betrayal, exhaustion, burn out and even illness.

  1. Ignoring Self-Love & Self Care

As women, we often put our own care and needs last. For thousands of years the feminine essence has not been valued except for giving birth and raising children, (which is, by the way a function of one of our most powerful feminine powers, the power to create and birth- either a baby or a project.)

As a woman, it is crucial for your success that you turn some of that love that you give to everyone else back on yourself, that you love yourself enough to take time for yourself to exercise, eat well, get a massage, have meaningful conversation and have fun. You can use your masculine energy to push when you need to, but when you balance it with love and care for yourself, the universe takes care of you, for the feminine is the receiver and the attractor by nature.

  1. Saying Yes When You Mean No

As women, we often make others’ ideas and wants more important than our own. Sometimes, deep down, we don’t think we really have the right to our wants.

The way out of this is to start to identify what you want in small things and build up to the bigger things.

  • Ask, What do I want here? for every situation. What outcome do I want? Where do I want to go? What do I want to do?
  • If you don’t want it, say no politely. When you want something, ask for what you want with respect and love. Make it a request. Don’t wait until you are ready to explode to ask. And then dance with what you get.
  • If someone asks you to do something, take your time, decide if doing this is in alignment with what’s most important to you. For example, will it take you away from time with your family, much needed time for yourself, an important goal? Put them off if you need more time. And if you feel in your heart you really want to do it, (not just because you think you should) by all means, give it a full yes!
  • Learn to ask for help for yourself (at home and in business and life.) You deserve it. It’s one of the great secrets of success.

 

  1. Buying into the Belief that Pushing and Muscling Through is the Only Way to Succeed

Many women think that to be successful in business, they have to work overtime, be on their phones and computers even after hours. They lose out on things that are truly meaningful to them, like spending time with family and friends, creative pursuits or just plain fun.

They don’t set boundaries and don’t do enough things to replenish themselves. This is a recipe for feeling drained, empty and exhausted. Because a man is fueled by testosterone and designed to push and muscle through, he can take on a lot more stress than a woman. Statistics show that women are 40% more likely to get heart disease and 60% more likely to get diabetes than men under the same stressful circumstances.

For women, doing things that have meaning, create connection and are fun release the powerfully rejuvenating and re-energizing hormone oxytocin. This is a woman’s fuel. The truth is, doing more of what you love and what’s important to you nurtures you and feeds you and makes you more enthusiastic and productive in your work.

Yes, you have both feminine and masculine energies and yes, you can push when you need to, but remember you will thrive when you learn to honor your feminine!

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The Power of the Creative Feminine

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As women, we’re often so busy doing for others, putting out fires, performing and trying to hold it all together that we put ourselves and our needs on the back burner. We are naturally multi-taskers, caregivers and nurturers, who often put what’s most important to us last or give up on it altogether.  Self love and self care have gone missing and…. this is a recipe for dimming down our power and being unfulfilled in our lives.

Self –love is the fertile soil from which the sacred seed of your Divine Feminine takes root ~Ocean Whitehawk

So often women don’t utilize their gifts such as intuition, passion and creativity. When you are not living from your authenticity, it’s hard to be joyful and fulfilled. Who is this woman, what are her values and most of all what does she truly long to express in her life? Some want to find their passion. Some want to find their voice. Some want more balance and ease in their lives and some want to use their creative powers to create more prosperity in their lives.

When a woman answers these questions for herself, she begins to strengthen her relationship with herself, stand confidently in her power and then she is juiced by life. Then she gives herself permission to honor and care for herself, to love herself just the way she was created and go for what she really wants. That’s when she is standing in the Power of the Creative Feminine.

I grew up with some shame around being a woman. It really held me back. I was taught in my generation not to appear too smart or too good at sports or too in-charge around a potential date. In other words, don’t dare be yourself and say what you think and how you feel. The boys wouldn’t like it and the subtle message was – they wouldn’t marry me.  Of course that was what I was being raised to do – get married, have children, and always defer to the man, which is all fine if that is your calling. I thought it was mine, but it didn’t turn out to be. I must say I found my calling late in life, but I found it and now I am passionate about helping you find yours.

The first step is Self Love. Once you learn to love and trust yourself, everything else begins to follows. If this resonates with you, look for my article on Self Love, take the quiz and download the guided meditation.

Be True & Be You! You, not someone like you, but YOU are a gift to this world. So, share  yourself!

Self Love – How Does It Impact Your Life?

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Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about self-love and what it really is and why it took me so long to cultivate it. It occurs to me now that self-love is the master key to joy, happiness, and success. I’ve been working on self-love for years and still at times I get blindsided by a rejection or a judgment.  

I’ll be gliding along, feeling good about myself and my life when suddenly something jumps out at me that rocks my boat. Somebody says something to me that feels critical, another person is rude, another doesn’t respond to my calls or emails, I forget to pay a bill. All my old feelings from my past of being unworthy, unlovable and inadequate come up.

Fortunately now my recovery time is much shorter than it used to be. Instead of days, weeks and sometimes years of worrying over past “offenses” and things I did “wrong,” I am able to recover in seconds, minutes or hours depending on the intensity.

“He who takes offense when no offense is intended is a fool, and he who takes offense when offense is intended is a greater fool.” Brigham Young

Here is an exercise you can use when someone offends you:

First make it about them and not you. Make up excuses for them, “Maybe she was having a bad day.” “Maybe he had just gotten some terrible news.” “Maybe she didn’t mean it in the way I took it.” “Maybe they went into the hospital and weren’t able to answer my calls and emails.” (I used that one recently) “And even if that person was judging me, I refuse to judge myself.” “ Even though I feel inadequate and wrong for not paying a bill, I still deeply love and accept myself” Do everything in your power to maintain your state of self-love.

Remember, it’s not that you necessarily get over getting triggered right away, it’s about how quickly you can recover. It’s about fiercely protecting your self-approval and therefore your happiness. Use the affirmations, “I love myself, I approve of myself.”  “It’s not about me, it’s about them.”

“How would your life be different if…you stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day…you stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others”  – Steve Mariboli

Most people think success brings happiness, when actually the opposite is true. Happiness brings success. Happy people are in the heart. Happy people are filled with gratitude. When you love yourself, you project that love everywhere you go. You have confidence. You are true to yourself. You offer your gifts freely. People are drawn to you. People look up to you. People love you. You are open to receive and that’s when the universe fills you up!

I gave myself the birthday gift recently at a friend’s suggestion to approve of myself unconditionally, no matter what; to imbibe “Everything happens for the best” in the most radical sense. As I immerse myself futher in self love, I’m finding that there is basically only one love. Love of Self, Love of Creator, Love of Others and Love of Life all emanate from the same  heart. When you fall in love with your own beautiful heart, you fall in love with everyone and everything!

Self -Love Quiz

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Loving yourself, being yourself and trusting yourself create a life that fulfills you and supports you. How you feel about yourself has a profound effect on your inner happiness as well as all the outer circumstances of your life.

Did you know, you were born as the first, and the last and the best and the only one of your kind, and that eccentricity is the first sign of giftedness?    Clarissa Pinkola Estes

How do you rate in the Self-Love Department?

SELF-LOVE QUIZ

Rate yourself from 0-10,
10 = I totally agree
0 = I totally disagree
1-9 = everything in between

  1.     I measure my worth by who I am instead of by what I do.
  2.     I measure my success by how fulfilled I am instead of by how I compare to others.
  3.     I feel I am good and worthy.
  4.     I put my faith in my own truth instead of other people’s opinions and rules.
  5.     I accept and love myself no matter what I’m thinking or feeling.
  6.     I feel that I deserve to be loved just because I exist.
  7.     I trust my intuition.
  8.     I believe in myself.
  9.     I don’t feel that I have to do things in a certain way to please others.
  10.     As a rule, I live more from love than fear.
  11.     I don’t say yes when I mean no.
  12.     I am never the last person I take into consideration.
  13.     If someone rejects me I make it about them and not about me.
  14.     My actions are driven by inspiration and love instead of by fear and struggle.
  15.     I ask for what I want and am willing to dance with what I get.

Add up your numbers.

  • If you scored 105 or better, congratulations!  Your self-love is pretty healthy.
  • If you scored below 105, you are not nurturing, loving and supporting yourself nearly enough. Don’t get discouraged, we all struggle with this. We all have room to make ourselves a lot happier.

You can begin by simply noticing each time you sell out on yourself and by accepting that tendency in yourself. Noticing is a powerful catalyst for change! Be True & Be You!

How To Predict Your Future

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Did you know that you are creating your future now with every thought, word and action? What are you thinking, saying, doing or not doing? Are you complaining all of the time or even some of the time? Do you know that these unconscious habits are undermining your success? Are you sometimes undisciplined, unfocused and not taking actions you know would bring you success or make you feel better? Do you know what you want? Do you have a plan, a vision?

If you’re not practicing “conscious creation”, you’re creating on default. You are always creating something. Either you are creating a bright future for yourself or you are creating more of the same or…something worse.

So take a minute now and look at what you are creating for yourself. If you are always complaining about your circumstances, you are being ungrateful for all the amazing gifts you’ve been given. This unconscious habit can cut you off from receiving and even cause you to attract more things to complain about.

When you focus on gratitude for what you have already been given, the universe wants to give you more and more and more. This is not just pie in the sky. It is physics. It’s the way life works.

If you want to create a wonderful life for yourself, become conscious of what you are thinking and saying. If it is negative, quickly turn it around and think of something that makes you feel happy. You hold the reins. In this way, you are “consciously creating” your future.

Think about what you would like to be creating. Ask yourself,  “If I could  wave a magic wand over my life and create anything I wanted, how would I recreate my life?” Then write it down. Just by doing this you’ve created a compelling vision that is starting to create your future now.

Maybe you’ve done this before and it still hasn’t come out like you wanted it. Well, let’s add another ingredient, I call this the “Feeling Magnet.” Write down how you will feel when this situation is true for you. How happy will you be, how energized, how fulfilled, how peaceful and secure? However you want to feel, go ahead and bring up those feelings now. Really come present to those feelings. Give yourself to them. Allow yourself to revel in them. Do more things in your life that bring up those same or similar feelings. The more you focus on feeling good, the more the “Feeling Magnet” will work in your life to draw to you those experiences that produce those feelings.

Every day spend time on your vision.  Take from 5 to 15 minutes to read your vision or goal, picturing it as if it has already happened. Get in touch with those amazing feelings that manifesting your vision will produce. Let them get even more intense. How high can you let yourself go? The more you put into this visualization and the “Feeling Magnet”, the more powerfully it will pull your vision toward you.

So give up letting your thoughts and words be on default. Become conscious of where they are taking you. Is that where you want to go? Focus on things that make you feel grateful, that are what you truly want in your life and things that make you happy. And there will be no limit to what your life can become!

 

5 Tips to Empower Your Dream

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For some reason, we as human beings have a natural tendency to focus on the negative, e.g., failure, lack, offenses of others, self-deprecation. But, in order to empower our dreams, we must see ourselves and our lives as full, powerful, abundant and successful. How do we do that when there are so many challenges in our lives? We do it through vigilance on where we put our focus. It’s simple, but not easy. It takes discipline. Here are some tips to create a tipping point in your life.

1. Success Breeds Success

Every night before you fall asleep, think of your successes during the day. Come up with at least five. They don’t have to be big, but they certainly can be. Get in the habit of celebrating even the smallest success. As you make this a habit, you begin to see yourself as a success and this helps you manifest more success in your life.

E.g., “When triggered by someone, I took a breath, went into my heart and was able to respond without a charge;” “I got 2 new clients today;” “I went to see  someone in the hospital and helped uplift them.”

2. Gratitude Attracts Abundance

Before setting any intention or goal, it is beneficial to spend 30 sec to a minute thinking of what you already have in your life to be grateful for. Gratitude fills you with love and places your focus on abundance and fullness. It opens your heart and prepares you to receive even more. From a feeling of lack, you only create more lack. When you are feeling abundant, you are attracting abundance. Spend some time every day thinking of all the things in your life you are grateful for. You can roll this over into your success practice, because you can feel gratitude for your successes, but don’t forget to add the little things that are just part of life, like a warm cup of hot chocolate on a cold day.

3. Have the attitude, “It Is Done”

Write your intentions & goals in the present or past tense as if they are happening now or have already manifested. Visualize them and imagine yourself already there in as much detail as you can for at least 5 min each day. If you do this each night before you go to bed, your subconscious mind will be working on ideas for manifesting your dreams while you sleep!

4. Utilize Your Feeling Magnet

Each time you visualize your dream already manifested, focus on how you will feel when you have manifested your dreams. If it will bring you love, peace, joy, happiness, excitement… (whatever the attributes), focus on those feelings. Think of other things that bring up these feelings in you. Let them get more intense. Take time to revel in them. Do more things that bring up those same feelings. Your feelings have enormous power to draw toward you more things that bring up those same feelings in you.

5. Live Your Dream

Act as if you have already attained your dreams. As you think of yourself already there, think of all of the positive ways of being that have brought you there. Ways of being such as confident, happy, cheerful, committed, unstoppable, creative, wise, powerful, charismatic, strong, a leader, peaceful and more. Practice becoming that person and each time you exhibit one of these ways of being, acknowledge yourself and add that success to your list of successes.

5 More Tips to Empower Your Dream

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Your state of mind is probably the most important component of manifesting! And, if you combine it with clear intention and small consistent action steps every day, you will become unstoppable.

1. Ask for What you Want & Dance With What You Get
It’s very powerful to get clear on what you want your life to be like . It brings focus and intention to your life. At the same time, don’t be too attached to it coming out exactly as you laid it out. Remember, God’s plan for us is so much better than anything we could dream up. So be open and flexible. When writing your intentions and goals, after stating what you want, you can add the phrase, “or something better.” When things don’t turn out exactly as you wanted, ask ”What’s the opportunity here?” And listen for an answer. It will come over time.

2. Focus on the What, Not the How
Don’t worry about the how. Just trust that the way will be revealed to you. Focus on and visualize the outcome you want. But do keep taking action (stirring the pot) and asking “What’s my next step?” Your outcomes do not always come directly from the action you take, but from the strong intention behind your actions. This is the power of intention. Repeat these affirmations often. You can put them on index cards or sticky notes and post them where you will see them.

“Everything I need and want comes to me in divine wisdom.” “Everything I need to know is revealed to me.”

3. Give Up “Stinking Thinking”
“I can’t do it”  “I’m not smart enough, good enough” Whenever a negative thought comes up that makes your gut wrench, shuts you down and keeps you from acting. Say this:

“I now release the belief __________. Then take a deep breath in and blow that thought out as you blow out through your mouth three times. Picture it leaving you. Then immediately turn it around to its opposite.

“I can’t do it” would become “I can do it.”

“I’m not good enough” “I am perfect just as I am”

Say, “I now install the new empowering belief___________ and breathe it in” letting it fill up your entire being.

4. Celebrate
Every time you see progress toward you dream, find a way to celebrate it. Maybe you made some calls that you had been dreading or worked out a little longer at the gym or showed leadership in a certain situation.Think of something that you love to do and go do it! It needn’t involve money, but of course it can. The inner child in you needs to be rewarded, whenever you do something out of your comfort zone. And it’s only when you get out of your comfort zone (the dead zone, some call it) that you can make progress toward you dream.

5.  Cultivate Happiness
A lot has been said about about celebrating, focusing on positive feelings, turning our “stinking thinking” into positive affirmations, etc. These are all for the sake of cultivating happiness. Most people think success brings happiness, when in fact happiness brings success. Every time you think poorly of yourself or others, blame, criticize, complain, you are creating a future that will bring you more to complain about, criticize, etc.
“How can I cultivate happiness, when I have so little to be happy about?” you may ask. Most people don’t realize that happiness is a choice. It’s not always easy to turn unhappiness around. You can start by just noticing when you are unhappy and then remember that you have a choice. Make every effort to lift your spirits whenever you can – music, exercise, a walk outdoors. And as you get in that habit, then when the sadness or pain comes, it won’t be so hard.
Decide on happiness ahead of time. Do more things that make you happy. Love every detail of your life, even your bills. Look for the gift.

 

 

Your Dream Is Waiting in the Wings

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waiting in the wingsDo you feel a lurch of disappointment in your gut when you think of your Dream as compared to the reality you are in right now? And are you reluctant to create your vision for this year because of that?

Here’s a Secret: In order to manifest your Dream, you have to show up in your life, right now just as it is, as if it is the most amazing life in the world! You embrace it, all of it. No matter what you are doing or who you are with, you embrace it and give it your best… instead of resisting it!

Carl Jung tells us “what you resist persists” Resistance causes suffering and can cause you to lose the learning. “Embracing what is” sends a strong message to the universe. “I’m willing to do whatever it takes to manifest my Dream. BRING IT ON!” When you give you best, no matter what you are doing or who you are with, you open to receive the best!

Remember to keep happiness afloat. Success doesn’t bring happiness. Happiness brings success!

 

The Women’s Success Tribe

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Over the last several months, I have been interviewing what I consider conscious, spiritual, intuitive women who want to express their ideas and gifts in a meaningful way. It has been a great adventure and I have been thrilled with the willingness and even eagerness with which many of these women shared their challenges and their dreams with me.

I began to see early on that it would take me a very long time to get to all the wonderful women I wanted to interview, so I decided to take my interview project online. I have named the initiative “The Women’s Success Tribe.” I think there is room here for a very rich discussion.

So, I would like to invite all of you who feel drawn to this project to participate by taking a short anonymous Survey

Here are some of the results from the Women’s Interview Project so far:

The biggest Common Denominators were “Being Who I Truly Am” and “Asking for What I Truly Want.“ Many women shared that they felt women have less permission to live full out, that they are often not seen for who they truly are. Some have fear of revealing themselves. They don’t feel they can ask for what they want, but must settle instead for what they are “supposed” to have and do.

In my opinion, this is a tragedy! This world is “dying” for what women, coming from their deep authenticity, can offer. The natural qualities of the feminine aspect – intuition, wisdom, compassion, kindness, nurturing, healing, acceptance, forgiveness, creativity and collaborative leadership are so needed at this time.
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“The World will be saved by the Western Woman”
~ the Dalai Lama

Other Challenges that were mentioned were Taking Care of Myself; Asking for Help; Taking Credit; Finding Balance; the Aging Process; Being Alone; Being in Relationship and Wanting To Be in a Relationship.

Some of the answers to What’s Important to You? were: Determining What’s Authentic for Me; Being Joyful, Loving and Having Fun; Living from my Heart; Being Accepted for Who I am; Having the Courage to Manifest my Vision,  Answering My Inner Calling.

I hope you will help me with this project by Taking the Survey

My goal is to bring women like these together in a tribe,       ”The Women’s Success Tribe” to define what they truly want in life, identify their challenges and obstacles and support each other in getting there.

I will be holding a <3Free TeleCourse in 3 weeks to talk more about what women want, their gifts, their challenges and their dreams. Stay tuned for how to participate in that!
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